Before my brain injury, in my type-A life, I used to end the year with a retreat of silence. At the end of my day to myself, I would emerge with a list of 25 New Year's resolutions, five in each of five categories: spiritual, physical, professional, financial, and personal. I really enjoyed this exercise of reviewing the previous year and really thinking through the direction I wanted to take in the new year.
After my brain injury, in my type-Z life, I know that I cannot predict how I will feel from one day to the next, so making measurable goals like I used to do is not a realistic, or particular helpful exercise for me anymore. Instead, a few years ago I started to focus on a single word instead.
In 2013, my word was savor. Savor, to me, conveys a sense of enjoyment, not only of your food, but also of your conversation and company. I liked the idea of spending a year savoring the good in my life. In fact, I liked this idea so much that I added the word to our dinette decor.
In 2012, my word was home, because I was focused on settling in and making our new house a home.
In 2011, my word was build, as most of our day was filled with designing and building the de Jong Dream House.
This year, my word is discover. Inspired by our son's love for space, this year I hope this discover new ways of quilting, discover new interests with our son, discover new places as a family, discover the reason behind the health issues that have been keeping me from doing the things I want to do this year, and discover new family traditions to enjoy together now that our son is a little older.
Here's to 2014!